I am a profoundly deaf oralist and have been since birth.
After a (long) while being single, I decided I would try the internet dating thing a try.
A number of my (hearing) friends have had great success with them. The rest continued talking for a while, but then either tailed off or ‘met someone else’. I made it clear that I was deaf, but iterated that I did not need to bring an interpreter to any dates because I speak. I had one woman email me saying that she understood about being deaf and dating as she had a kid! I even had a terp emailing me telling me that I was really brave for going on a hearing dating site! Yes, you may get fewer responses, but in the long run it is far less hurtful.
It was fun at first, writing a profile, and then looking for matches. Then we started talking about meeting up – this whole internet dating malarkey is paying off! Whether this is connected or not, I don’t know, but of the women who I was in conversation with, not one of them agreed to meet me after I revealed I was deaf. The number of views stayed the same, but the number of people contacting me tailed off quite significantly.
I sent a few emails to them saying ‘hey, your profile looks great, reply if you like mine’ or some other cheesy line. I arrange our first date, just a drink in a local pub. Understandably, she was nervous about meeting me – or so I thought! It couldn’t have been my face, she saw my profile picture. The next day, I sent her an email asking what I had done wrong. However, I still get an email every couple of weeks off a woman, and I have had a couple of very pleasant dates.
Watch as two awkward lonely people discover that love is blind...